Monday, June 15, 2009

Psycho crazy wife/ex-wife...are there any normal people out there?

SubhanAllah! This is just dejavu, over the weekend I got an instant message from the brother I mentioned in the polygny thoughts post. He said he had an apology, he said that it wasnt him I was speaking to in the previous was his WIFE. OKaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay. So apparently she came online using his email, pretended to be him and just picked me out of his friends list to have a talk about wanting two wives. Ya Allah! I don't even want to think about what kind of person would do that.

Now I said dejavu because a couple of years ago, I met a brother online on a muslim marriage website. We were communicating by email and instant massages and things were going pretty well. One day he starts acting weird telling me all sorts of things, that he wasnt good enough for me, that I should find another brother, that his ex wife paid all the bills and that he got her in trouble with the police and lots of crap, so I got upset and told him I couldnt deal with this anymore, he apologized and stuff and that was it. Later I get an e-card like everything is okay. So I send a message asking what kind of crap is this first he's breaking off our relationship, then next he is sending e-cards. Turns out it was his EX-WIFE pretending to be him and sending me messages and email. Why oh why do people give access to their emails to their wives/husbands...especially if they clearly have mental issues....

This is clearly a wake up call to be careful on the internet, chat messages and emails may not be from who you think they are, but from someones crazy wife, or ex-wife or whatever.


  1. :S...
    Gosh this world is really full of all kinds of people :S
    It's so unbelievably crazy, you just have to wonder what is really going through their minds :s.. on another thought I don't think I'd want to know!
    And I hear you loud and
    I'll keep on the look out :D

  2. I just don't know if the men are liar or the women are psycho!!! It so happens that people accuse their wives of the crimes they have committed. I have many examples at hand. Keep yourself happy and don't bother about them. Keep your mind healthy by paying attention to the better people and ignoring the psychos!

  3. Wa alaikum salaam Sister Le-Ann,
    I know its crazy....but sometimes you just can't trust people at all.

  4. Assalamu alaikum Br. Aurangzeb,
    Thanks for the advice, and Alhamdullilah that both those people are out of my life. I think I'm gonna just block his messages too, I can't deal with all the drama.

  5. I find it strange that she didn't reveal herself in the initial email. Think about it this way habibty. If you were looking for a sister wife, would you start out by concocting a deceitful email? Knowing that would all but ruin the chance of you #2 saying yes to the marriage?

    I guess what I'm trying to say is I'm still not sure this brother is off the hook here.

    Now the second story makes sense. That was his crazy ex-wife stirring up trouble, NOT him. But, something is fishy with the more recent story!

    Oh gosh I feel sorry for you sweetie. Marriage is hard enough to consider without poly lifestyles on the table and crazed husbands suitors/1st wives. Ugh. Love you and your perserverance.

  6. Hi dear Lisa, yes I don't get it either, it doesnt make any sense to me at all, but I'm trying not to dwell on it and am not going to try to figure out what she was up to. I'll just leave it alone. Thanks for your comments dear sister :)

  7. Subhannallah! the games people play, I can't tell if it's the men lying or the psycho women, but either way...those people clearly have issues.

  8. As Salaamu 'alaikum sister,

    SubhanaAllah i feel for you! That behaviour is appalling! May Allah protect you from these people. Ameen! You're right we have to be careful there are too many crazy people online. Try the masjid inshaAllah that will be a better avenue.

    InshaAllah your day's going well :)

    wa Salaamu 'alaikum

  9. Yup Cushitic girl, some people just like playing games and wasting peoples time.

  10. Wa alaikum salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, Sister Sacrifice4Allah,
    Shukran for your dua, Ameen!

    JazakAllah khayr, Alhamdullilah the day is going great :). I hope you have a good day too dear sis.

  11. Asalaamu alaikum sweetie

    I tried to leave a comment earlier in the day on route home from work but my phone was playing up... (Grr!)

    First of all I wanted to say that Ive missed you Sis! I pray you have been well my love!

    Gosh to me it sounds like the guy is lying. Blatantly. Although Allhu Alim.

    Regardless of whoever it is playing the game, Be it him or her, How childish! Like I mean, what the hell – whats the point?!

    If it IS him, hes obviously trying to backtrack on the conversation and make out like it wasn’t him! But why?! And if it was her, Who exactly does this kind of thing?!

    Inshallah, I pray you don’t have to deal with anymore nonsense like this deary!

    Much love to you Sis!

  12. assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
    wowwww the stuffs people will do nowadays on the internet and stuff. we just have to be careful and thanks Allah they are out of your life now. i mean we dont have time to add drama to our livessssss.
    InchaAllah you will find success in what you seekin 4

  13. Wa alaykum salaam Sister Jannah,
    Yes Allahu Alim, I dont know at all if he is lying or not. Thanks for the sweet comments Sis.

    Love you too :)

  14. Wa alaykum salaam wa rahmatullah Sister Habibti,

    Yeah we have to be careful, sometimes people are not who they pretend to be. Yes InshaAllah :), JazakAllah Khayr for your comments.

  15. I trust someone from the internet but I'm afraid if I'm doing anything wrong!I hope not!

  16. Just be careful Sis Liliana and make sure to do your Istikhara prayer and make sure your Wali is involved InshaAllah.