Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Half our deen, the search continues.....

Yes, Yes..I know I know I know........this marriage topic is all played out, we have heard it all before. The worldwide shortage of eligible Muslim men, the overwhelming number of Muslim sisters who can't find a suitable husband, and of course the divorce horror stories.

Here is a summary of a few of my search experiences,

The guy who chatted with me on webcam, but paid more attention to CSI Miami...DURING our conversations, so I mostly just saw the side of his head as he watched TV. Him belching loudly into the microphone and telling me to "get used to it".....NEXT

The guy who dissed me because I was not interested in wearing niqaab (although it is NOT compulsory) .......NEXT

The guy whose first question was "what is your profession?" , and he has no place to live and no stable job....NEXT

The guy who said "I would marry her if she was a little bit younger" ....NEXT

The guy who sounded so desperate, and wanted to get married after speaking to me for a week, he freaked me out .....NEXT

The guy who did not Fast and Pray but said "At least I am Muslim".....NEXT

The guy who was old enough to be my father ...and he already has two other wives (not that theres anything wrong with Polygamy)..but yes...NEXT

The guy who is a 'Practicing Muslim' but plays Guitar (we all know the music debate)....NEXT

The guy who was insistent on his wife covering (and I Do wear hijab) ...but yet he sent me a pic of him wearing shorts and having his arm around the waist of Eryka Badu (who is NOT related to him) and another woman..........NEXT

The guy who divorced his wife (with 5 kids) and refused to tell me the reason...I later found out quite by accident that he had cheated on her......NEXT

The cute guy who could not have an intellectual conversation with me and got into temper tantrums whenever it seemed like I was gonna end our communication.....NEXT

The guy who practically cussed me off, because I have a problem with the Nation of Islam ......NEXT

The guy whose entire conversation was regarding polygamy even though he was NOT married and I had switched the subject numerous times.....NEXT

But at the end of the day.....I don't want to be saying NEXT forever....and although I know there is no one that is perfect, I am yet to find someone I am compatible with. I will continue to make Dua and continue to search..online and offline.

Allah subhana wa ta'ala is the Doer and Istikhara has made things clear for me several times, Alhamdullilah.

I will be patient and content with where I am at but trust me , I'm not putting up with anybodys ignorance and foolishness....so NEXT

The happiness of the son of Adam depends on his being content with what Allah has decreed for him, and the misery of the son of Adam results from his failure to pray istikharah, and the misery of the son of Adam results from in his discontent with what Allah has decreed for him.

Hadith - al-Tirmidhi # 2151. [Classed as saheeh by al-Haakim, 1/699, and al-Dhahabi agreed with him. It was classed as hasan by al-Haafiz ibn Hajar in Fath al-Baari, 11/184]


  1. Lol. This made me laugh, looks like you've met almost every other weirdo in the Muslim Community. Guess what, you will meet many more, but in the end, the one that you're destined to be with will come without you even looking for him.Insh'Allah, Allah will make it easy for you when that time comes, and he will be what you've been looking for.

  2. Yup it makes me laugh too when I think about it :-)
    Shukran for you dua, Ameen. May Allah reward you with the best of this life and the hearafter , Ameen.

  3. Salaams Sis:

    Oh brother; can I relate. One guy asked me what my bra size was.

    Keep your head up; Allah (swt) will send you a wonderful husband!

  4. Wa alaikum salaam Safiyyah,

    SubhanaAllah!!!!...he really asked you about your bra size? OMG, some guys have no shame.

    InshaAllah on the wonderful husband :-)