Yes, Yes..I know I know I know........this marriage topic is all played out, we have heard it all before. The worldwide shortage of eligible Muslim men, the overwhelming number of Muslim sisters who can't find a suitable husband, and of course the divorce horror stories.
Here is a summary of a few of my search experiences,
The guy who chatted with me on webcam, but paid more attention to CSI Miami...DURING our conversations, so I mostly just saw the side of his head as he watched TV. Him belching loudly into the microphone and telling me to "get used to it".....NEXT
The guy who dissed me because I was not interested in wearing niqaab (although it is NOT compulsory) .......NEXT
The guy whose first question was "what is your profession?" , and he has no place to live and no stable job....NEXT
The guy who said "I would marry her if she was a little bit younger" ....NEXT
The guy who sounded so desperate, and wanted to get married after speaking to me for a week, he freaked me out .....NEXT
The guy who did not Fast and Pray but said "At least I am Muslim".....NEXT
The guy who was old enough to be my father ...and he already has two other wives (not that theres anything wrong with Polygamy)..but yes...NEXT
The guy who is a 'Practicing Muslim' but plays Guitar (we all know the music debate)....NEXT
The guy who was insistent on his wife covering (and I Do wear hijab) ...but yet he sent me a pic of him wearing shorts and having his arm around the waist of Eryka Badu (who is NOT related to him) and another woman..........NEXT
The guy who divorced his wife (with 5 kids) and refused to tell me the reason...I later found out quite by accident that he had cheated on her......NEXT
The cute guy who could not have an intellectual conversation with me and got into temper tantrums whenever it seemed like I was gonna end our communication.....NEXT
The guy who practically cussed me off, because I have a problem with the Nation of Islam ......NEXT
The guy whose entire conversation was regarding polygamy even though he was NOT married and I had switched the subject numerous times.....NEXT
But at the end of the day.....I don't want to be saying NEXT forever....and although I know there is no one that is perfect, I am yet to find someone I am compatible with. I will continue to make Dua and continue to search..online and offline.
Allah subhana wa ta'ala is the Doer and Istikhara has made things clear for me several times, Alhamdullilah.
I will be patient and content with where I am at but trust me , I'm not putting up with anybodys ignorance and foolishness....so NEXT
The happiness of the son of Adam depends on his being content with what Allah has decreed for him, and the misery of the son of Adam results from his failure to pray istikharah, and the misery of the son of Adam results from in his discontent with what Allah has decreed for him.
Hadith - al-Tirmidhi # 2151. [Classed as saheeh by al-Haakim, 1/699, and al-Dhahabi agreed with him. It was classed as hasan by al-Haafiz ibn Hajar in Fath al-Baari, 11/184]